It’s easy to get in a rut with our spouse and stop moving forward in our relationship. On the contrary, if you want to move your way into a great marriage, it takes work!
A couple should constantly be working on their communication and learning how to love each other better. As we move into marriage, the more we will discover how different we are. As you can imagine, different expectations can make for some misunderstanding.
Ask questions. There more we ask, the closer it will bring us. We can learn things about each other that we didn’t know before, or how spending quality time with your spouse had actually brought him/her more joy than anything else.
The key to asking these questions is to keep an open mind, take off your defensive hat, and make sure both of you are in a good place. Time and place is key in having a deeper discussion
Note: (Do not ask these questions when your spouse is in a bad mood or has their head on the pillow).
Here are 20 great questions you can ask your spouse and improve your relationship. Enjoy communicating and let us know if these bring on good discussion!
1. How can I love you better?
2. Do you feel “heard” in our relationship?
3. What has brought you the most joy recently?
4. What is your biggest goal for this year? How can I help you achieve this?
5. What do you need my help with?
6. Do I give you enough space to be you?
7. How’s our sex life for you?
8. What’s one thing I can do to take a burden off you?
9. What hobbies do you wish we could do together?
10. Do you feel respected when we’re in public?
11. Do you feel loved when we’re together?
12. What is your favourite thing about yourself?
13. Do you think we have a good division of labour in our marriage?
14. What can I do to make you feel more understood?
15. Am I doing anything that is driving you crazy?
16. Is there anything we need to discuss?
17. Where would you like to visit for our next holiday trip?
18. What is one thing you’d like to do before we have kids?
19. What desires do you have that we haven’t discussed?
20. Am I meeting your expectations?
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