You’ve probably heard that a happy wife equals a happy life.
Here are ten simple tips that are certain to yield high returns when it comes to your wife’s happiness.
1. Tell her you love her
Cliché, you say? I beg to differ. We may think expressing our affection verbally is unnecessary; but she thinks the opposite, and will love you even more once you realise that.
2. Build her up
Building your wife’s confidence in her abilities is certain to lead to her happiness. In particular, avoid sarcasm with her. It is demeaning and will not build her up.
3. Give her some space
While your wife loves your company, she also values her independence. Sometimes what she really needs is a little time to herself – without the kids, and yes, even without her hubby. She will appreciate you being aware of her feelings, and recognizing that some alone time is needed.
Offer to take care of things while she has some personal time – be it a walk in the park, some quiet reading time or a visit to the salon.
4. Look nice for her
Whether on a dinner date or a day out without the kids – Shower, style your hair and put on something nice. Your wife will notice and appreciate when you look good.
5. Don’t make her hungry
Good food can change a mood and be the perfect pick-me-up. Wise husbands with happy wives keep the chocolate stash well-stocked.
6. Be faithful to her
Knowing she’s your one and only is sure to bring your wife much happiness. Show her that commitment through your actions, when you’re together and when you’re not. Be true to her, even in your thoughts. Don’t ever make her feel inadequate or unloved.
7. Know what she (really) likes
“Her favourites are sunflowers. And I would bring her breakfast every day. Six loaves of wheat bread with butter on both sides. No crusts. Just the way she likes it.”
Happy wives are married to husbands who have taken close note of what their wives really like.
8. Think about her
How often throughout the day do you let your wife know she’s on your mind? A quick call at lunch, a text message in the afternoon or even a special delivery will let her know you’re thinking about her.
I can relate to husbands who get sucked into their work and lose track of time without checking in; but I’ve also heard of other husbands who set alarms on their phones to remind them to send a thoughtful email or note.
9. Provide for her
I know of a daughter who asked her father what he thought she should look for in a husband in order to have a happy married life. The father’s advice surprised her.
He didn’t tell her to find someone that was rich, handsome, strong, funny, smart or anything that she might have expected. Instead, the father said, “Marry someone that will get up and go to work for you every day.” Whether your work involves donning a hard hat as you head to the construction site, or getting the kids out of bed and ready for school while your wife heads to her job, get up every day and go to work for your wife.
10. Make her a priority
Your wife needs to know she is your priority. This is often accomplished by spending quality time with her. Set the phones aside, and let her know you are focused on her.
Credit: Chandler Tanner Photo: Froken Fokus